We see what we want to see and our partner does the same to avoid being alone or bringing up problems in the relationship , until it’s too late…
What many of us think of as a relationship is often just a need to fill the void; a desire to be with someone to avoid feeling empty, alone or afraid. A genuine relationship, however, is created by the deep, sincere connection between two people, a connection built through openness, honesty, and authenticity – not through a series of guidelines of do’s and don’ts found in articles in magazines and social media.
Establishing and maintaining a relationship is not a mechanical process that can be manipulated by tactics and strategies. You can’t just use the ‘right’ formula(e.g. calling the right number of times, writing clever texts, appearing detached etc.) and expect to a great relationship. Unfortunately, people often try to deal with the complexities of their romantic life by turning to rules or pretending to be someone they’re not to keep their partner interested.
My approach is to help people move past using tactics and game playing to keep their relationship going. Through my relationship counselling, I help people get to to a place in their relationship where it’s no longer a source of fear or anger, that needs to be constantly manipulated, but a soft spot to fall on when you’ve had a hard day.